The love dare Day 2

DAY 2
LOVE IS KIND
BE KIND TO ONE ANOTHER, TENDER-HEARTED, FORGIVING EACH OTHER, JUST AS GOD IN CHRIST ALSO HAS FORGIVEN YOU.--EPHESIANS 4:32

KINDNESS IS LOVE IN ACTION. PATIENCE IS HOW LOVE REACTS IN ORDER TO MINIMIZE A NEGATIVE CIRCUMSTANCE, KINDNESS IS HOW LOVES ACTS TO MAXAMIZE A POSITIVE CIRCUMSTANCE. PATIENCE AVOIDS A PROBLEM; KINDNESS CREATES A BLESSING. ONE IS PREVENTATIVE, THE OTHER PROACTIVE. THESE TWO SIDES OF LOVE ARE THE CORNERSTONES ON WHICH MANY OF THE OTHER ATTRIBUTES WE WILL DISCUSS ARE BUILT.
LOVE MAKES YOU KIND. AND KINDNESS MAKES YOU LIKABLE. WHEN YOU’RE KIND, PEOPLE WANT TO BE AROUND YOU. THEY SEE YOU AS BEING GOOD TO THEM AND GOOD FOR THEM.
THE BIBLE KEYS IN ON THE IMPORTANCE OF KINDNESS: “DO NOT LET KINDNESS AND TRUTH LEAVE YOU; BIND THEM AROUND YOUR NECK, WRITE THEM ON THE TABLET OF YOU HEART. SO YOU WILL FIND FAVOR AND GOOD REPUTE IN THE SIGHT OF GOD AND MAN” (PROVERBS 3:3-4) KIND PEOPLE SIMPLY FAVOR WHEREVER THEY GO. EVEN AT HOME. BUT “KINDNESS” CAN FEEL A LITTLE GENERIC WHEN YOU TRY DEFINING IT, MUCH LESS LIVING IT. SO LET’S BREAK KINDNESS DOWN INTO FOUR BASIC CORE INGREDIENTS:
GENTLENESS. WHEN YOU’RE OPERATING FROM KINDNESS, YOU’RE CAREFUL HOW YOU TREAT YOUR SPOUSE, NEVER BEING UNNECESSARILY HARSH. YOU’RE SENSATIVE. TENDER. EVEN IF YOU NEED TO SAY HARD THINGS, YOU’LL BEND OVER BACKWARDS TO MAKE YOUR REBUKE OR CHALLENGE AS EASY TO HEAR AS POSSIBLE. YOU SPEAK THE TRUTH IN LOVE.
HELPFULLNESS. BEING KIND MEANS YOU MEET THE NEEDS OF THE MOMENT. IF IT’S HOUSEWORK, YOU GET BUSY. A LISTENING EAR? YOU GIVE IT. KINDNESS GRACES A WIFE WITH THE ABILITY TO SERVE HER HUSBAND WITHOUT WORRYING HER RIGHTS. KINDNESS MAKES A HUSBAND CURIOUS TO DISCOVER HIS WIFES NEEDS, THEN MOTIVATES HIM TO BE THE ONE WHO STEPS UP AND ENSURES THOSE NEEDS ARE MET---EVEN IF HIS ARE PUT ON HOLD.
WILLINGNESS. KINDNESS INSPIRES YOU TO BE AGREEALE. INSTEAD OF BEING OBSTINATE, RELUCTANT, OR STUBBORN., YOU COOPERATE, YOU STAY FLEXIBLE. RATHER THAN COMPLAINING AND MAKING EXCUSES, YOU LOOK FOR REASONS TO COMPROMISE AND ACCOMMODATE. A KIND HUSBAND ENDS THOUSANDS OF POTENTIAL ARGUMENTS BY HIS WILLINGNESS TO LISTEN FIRST RATHER THAN DEMAND HIS WAY.
INITIATIVE. KINDNESS THINKS AHEAD, THEN TAKES THE FIRST STEP. IT DOESN’T SIT AROUND WAITING TO BE PROMPTED OR COERCED BEFORE GETTING OFF THE COUCH. THE KIND HUSBAND OR WIFE WILL BE THE ONE WHO GREETS FIRST, SMILES FIRST, SERVES FIRST, AND FORGIVES FIRST. THEY DON’T REQUIRE THE OTHER TO GET HIS OR HER ACT TOGETHER BEFORE SHOWING LOVE. WHEN ACTING FROM KINDNESS, YOU SEE THE NEED, THEN MAKE YOUR MOVE. FIRST.
JESUS CREATIVELY DESCRIBED THE KINDNESS OF LOVE IN HIS PARABLE OF THE GOOD SAMARITAN, FOUND IN THE BIBLE---LUKE, CHAPTER 10. A JEWISH MAN ATTACKED BY ROBBERS IS LEFT FOR DEAD ON A REMOTE ROAD. TWO RELIGIOUS LEADERS, RESPECTED AMONG THEIR PEOPLE, WALK BY WITHOUT CHOOSING TO STOP. TOO BUSY. TOO IMPORTANT. TOO FOND OF CLEAN HANDS. BUT A COMMON MAN OF ANOTHER RACE---HATED SAMARITANS, WHOSE DISLIKE FOR THE JEWS WAS BOTH BITTER AND MUTUAL---SEES THIS STRANGER IN NEED AND IS MOVED WITH COMPASSION. CROSSING ALL CULTURAL BOUNDARIES AND RISKING RIDICULE, HE STOPS TO HELP THE MAN. BANDAGING HIS WOUNDS AND PUTTING HIM ON HIS OWN DONKEY, HE CARRIES HIM TO SAFETY AND PAYS ALL HIS MEDICAL EXPENSES OUT OF HIS OWN POCKET.
WHERE YEARS OF RACISM HAD CAUSED STRIFE AND DIVISION, ONE ACT OF KINDNESS BROUGHT TWO ENEMIES TOGETHER. GENTLY. HELPFULLY. WILLINGLY. TAKING THE INITIATIVE, THIS MAN HAD DEMONSTRATED TRUE KINDNESS IN EVERY WAY.
WASN’T KINDNESS ONE OF THE KEY THINGS THAT DREW YOU AND YOUR SPUSE TOGETHER IN THE FIRST PLACE? WHEN YOU MARRIED, WEREN’T YOU EXPECTING TO ENJOY HIS OR HER KINDNESS FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE? DIDN’T YOUR MATE FEEL THE SAME WAY ABOUT YOU? EVEN THOUGH THE YEARS CAN TAKE THE EDGE OFF THAT DESIRE, YOUR ENJOYMENT IN MARRIAGE IS STILL LINKED TO THE DAILY LEVEL OF KINDNESS EXPRESSED.
THE BIBLE DESCRIBES A WOMAN WHOSE HUSBAND AND CHILDREN BLESS AND PRAISE HER. AMONG HER NOBLE ATTRIBUTES ARE THESE: “SHE OPENS HER MOUTH IN WISDOM, AND THE TEACHING OF KINDNESS IS ON HER TONGUE” (PROVERBS 31:26) HOW ABOUT YOU? HOW WOULD YOUR HUSBAND OR WIFE DESCRIBE YOU ON THE KINDNESS METER? HOW HARSH ARE YOU? HOW GENTLE AND HELPFUL? DO YOU WAIT TO BE ASKED, OR DO YOU TAKE THE INITIATIVE TO HELP? DON’T WAIT FOR THE SPOUSE TO BE KIND FIRST.
IT IS DIFFICULT TO DEMONSTRATE LOVE WHEN YOU FEEL LITTLE TO NO MOTIVATION. BUT LOVE IN ITS TRUEST SENSE IS NOT BASED ON FEELINGS. RATHER, LOVE DETERMINES TO SHOW THOUGHTFUL ACTIONS EVEN WHEN THERE SEEMS TO BE NO REWARD. YOU WILL NEVER LEARN TO LOVE UNTIL YOU LEARN TO DEMONSTRATE KINDNESS.
IN ADDITION TO SAYING NOTHING NEGATVE TO YOUR SPOUSE AGAIN TODAY, DO AT LEAST ONE UNEXPECTED GESTURE AS AN ACT OF KINDNESS.

Day 1: The Love Dare

I JUST BOUGHT THIS BOOK : THE LOVE DARE, AND HAVE DECIDED TO BLOG IT OUT! I HOPE THAT EACH PERSON THAT READS THIS FEELS THAT THEY CAN TAKE FROM THE PASSAGES I WRITE TO USE TOWARDS THEIR OWN LIFE. MY HUSBAND AND I DONT HAVE A BAD RELATIONSHIP, AS IN THE MOVIE FIREPROOF, BUT EVERYONE HAS ROOM TO IMPROVE. WHEN I WATCHED THAT MOVIE, IT WAS RIGHT AFTER DAVE AND I HAD OUR REAL FIRST BIG FIGHT. WE'VE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 7 YEARS, BUT I HAD NEVER LET AN ARGUMENT WITH HIM GO FOR MORE THAN A DAY. WE WERE ARGUING AND NOT SPEAKING TO EACHOTHER FOR OVER A WEEK. THEN MY FRIEND SAT ME DOWN TO WATCH THIS MOVIE AND IT WAS ALMOST LIKE A MESSAGE FROM GOD. SO I WANT TO SHARE WITH YOU THE SAME. IF YOU HAVENT SEEN THE MOVIE, YOU SHOULD. IF YOU ARE MARRIED, DOESNT MATTER IF THINGS ARE GOING WELL OR NOT, I RECOMMEND THE MOVIE TO EVERYONE....SO I HOPE THAT ALL OF YOU ENJOY MY BLOGGING;)

DAY 1
LOVE IS PATIENT

"BE COMPLETELTY HUMBLE AND GENTLE; BE PATIENT BEARING WITH ONE ANOTHER IN LOVE-EPHESIANS 4:2 NIV

LOVE WORKS. IT IS LIFES MOST POWERFUL MOTIVATOR AND HAS FAR GREATER DEPTH AND MEANING THAN MOST PEOPLE REALIZE. IT ALWAYS DOES WHAT IS BEST FOR OTHERS AND CAN EMPOWER US TO FACE THE GREATEST PROBLEMS. WE ARE BORN WITH A LIFELONG THIRST FOR LOVE. OUR HEARTS DESPERATLY NEED IT LIKE OUR LUNGS NEED OXYGEN. LOVE CHANGES OUR MOTIVATION FOR LIVING. RELATIONSHIPS BECOME MEANINGFUL WITH IT. NO MARRIAGE IS SUCCESSFUL WITHOUT IT.
LOVE IS BUILT ON TWO PILLARS THAT BEST DEFINE WHAT IT IS. THOSE PILLARS ARE PATIENCE AND KINDNESS. ALL OTHER CHARACTERISTICS OF LOVE ARE EXTENSIONS OF THESE TWO ATTRIBUTES. AND THATS WHERE YOUR DARE WILL BEGIN. WITH PATIENCE.
LOVE WILL INSPIRE YOU TO BECOME A PATIENT PERSON. WHEN YOU CHOOSE TO BE PATIENT, YOU RESPOND IN A POSITIVE WAY TO A NEGATIVE SITUATION. YOU ARE SLOW TO ANGER. YOU CHOOSE TO HAVE A LONG FUSE INSTEAD OF A QUICK TEMPER. RATHER THAN BEING RESTLESS AND DEMANDING, LOVE HELPS YOU SETTLE DOWN AND BEGIN EXTENDING MERCY TO THOSE AROUND YOU. PATIENCE BRINGS AND INTERNAL CALM DURING AN EXTERNAL STORM.
NO ONE LIKES TO BE AROUND AN IMPATIENT PERSON. IT CAUSES YOU TO OVERREACT IN ANGRY, FOOLISH, AND REGRETTABLE WAYS. THE IRONY OF ANGER TOWARD A WRONGFUL ACTION IS THAT IT SPAWNS NEW WRONGS OF ITS OWN. ANGER ALMOST NEVER MAKES THINGS BETTER. IN FACT, IT USUALLY GENERATES ADDITIONAL PROBLEMS. BUT PATIENCE STOPS PROBLEMS IN THEIR TRACKS. MORE THAN BITING YOUR LIP, MORE THAN CLAPPING A HAND OVER YOUR MOUTH, PATIENCE IS A DEEP BREATH. IT CLEARS THE AIR. IT STOPS FOLLISHNESS FROM WHIPPING ITS SCORPION TAIL ALL OVER THE ROOM/ IT IS A CHOICE TO CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS RATHER THAN ALLOWING YOUR EMOTIONS TO CONTROL YOU, AND SHOWS DISCRETION INSTEAD OF RETURNING EVIL FOR EVIL.
IF YOUR SPOUSE OFFENDS YOU, DO YOU QUICKLY RETALIATE, OR DO YOU STAY UNDER CONTROL? DO YOU FIND THAT ANGER IS YOUR EMOTIONAL DEFAULT WHEN TREATED UNFAIRLY? IF SO, YOU ARE SPREADING POISON RATHER THAN MEDICINE.
ANGER IS USUALLY CAUSED WHEN THE STRONG DESIRE FOR SOMETHING IS MIXED WITH DISAPPOINTMENT OR GRIEF. YOU DONT GET WHAT YOU WANT AND YOU START HEATING UP INSIDE. IT IS OFTEN AN EMOTIONAL REACTION THAT FLOWS OUT OF OUR SELFISHNESS, FOOLISHNESS, OR EVIL MOTIVES.
PATIENCE, HOWEVER, MAKES US WISE. IT DOESNT RUSH TO JUDGEMENT BUT LISTENS TO WHAT THE OTHER PERSON IS SAYING. PATIENCE STANDS IN THE DOORWAY WHERE ANGER IS CLAWING TO BURST IN, BUT WAITS TO SEE THE WHOLE PICTURE BEFORE PASSING JUDGEMENT. THE BIBLE SAYS, "HE WHO IS SLOW ANGER HAS GREAT UNDERSTANDING BUT HE WHO IS QUICK-TEMPERED EXALTS FOLLY" (PROVERBS 14:29)
AS SURE AS A LACK OF PATIENCE WILL TURN YOUR HOME INTO A WAR ZONE, THE PRACTICE OF PATIENCE WILL FOSTER PEACE AND QUIET. "A HOT-TEMPERED STIRS UP IN STRIFE, BUT THE SLOW TO ANGER CALMS A DISPUTE" (PROVERBS 15:18) STATEMENTS LIKE THESE FROM THE BIBLE BOOK OF PROVERBS ARE CLEAR PRINCIPLES WITH TIMELESS RELEVANCE. PATIENCE IS WHERE LOVE MEETS WISDOM. AND EVERY MARRIAGE NEED THAT COMBINATION.
PATIENCE HELPS YOU GIVE YOUR SPOUSE PERMISSION TO BE HUMAN. IT UNDERSTANDS THAT EVERYONE FAILS. WHEN A MISTAKE IS MADE, IT CHOOSES TO GIVE THEM MORE TIME THAN THEY DESERVE TO CORRECT IT. IT GIVES YOU THE ABILITY TO HOLD ON DURING THE TOUGH TIMES IN YOUR RELATIONSHP RATHER THAN BAILING OUT UNDER THE PRESSURE.
BUT CAN YOUR SPOUSE COUNT ON HAVING A PATIENT WIFE OR HUSBAND TO DEAL WITH? CAN SHE KNOW THAT LOCKING HER KEYS IN THE CAR WILL BE MET BY YOUR UNDERSTANDING RATHER TAHN A DEMEANING LECTURE THAT MAKES HER FEEL LIKE A CHILD? CAN HE KNOW THAT CHEERING DURING THE LAST SECONDS OF A FOOTBALL GAME WONT INVITE A LOUD-MOUTHED LAUNDRY LIST OF WAYS HE SHOULD SPEND HIS TIME? IT TURNS OUT THAT FEW PEOPLE ARE AS HARD TO LIVE WITH AS AN IMPATIENT PERSON.
WHAT WOULD THE TONE AND VOLUME OF YOUR HOME BE LIKE IF YOU TRIED THIS BIBLICAL APPROACH: "SEE THAT NO ONE REAPYS ANOTHER WITH EVIL FOR EVIL, BUT ALWAYS SEEK AFTER THAT WHICH IS GOOD FOR ONE ANOTHER" (I THESSALONIANS 5:15)
FEW OF US DO PATIENCE VERY WELL, AND NONE OF US DO IT NATURALLY. BUT WISE MEN AND WOMEN WILL PURSUE IT AS AN ESSENTIAL INGREDIANT TO THEIR MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIPS. THATS A GOOD STARTING POINT TO DEMONSTRATE TRUE LOVE.
THIS LOVE DARE JOURNEY IS A PROCESS, AND THE FIRT THING YOU MUST RESOLVE TO POSSESS IS PATIENCE. THINK OF IT AS A MARATHON, NOT A SPRINT. BUT ITS A RACE WORTH RUNNING.

THE FIRST PART OF THE DARE IS FAIRLY SIMPLE. ALTHOUGH LOVE IS COMMUNICATED IN A NUMBER OF WAYS, OUR WORDS OFTEN REFLECT THE CONDITION OF OUR HEART. FOR THE NEXT DAY, RESOLVE TO DEMONSTRATE PATIENCE AND TO SAY NOTHING NEGATIVE TO YOUR SPOUSE AT ALL. IF THE TEMPTATION ARISES, CHOOSE NOT TO SAY ANYTHING. ITS BETTER TO HOLD YOUR TONGUE THAN TO SAY SOMETHING YOU'LL REGRET."

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My favorite movies and fun facts about the actors and actresses...

My favorite ~*~Love~*~ movie is The Notebook...but of course!! This movie is exactly how love should be and in most cases is!! The main characters are Allie Hamilton, played by Rachel McAdams, and Noah Calhoun, played by Ryan Gosling!

Mini Biography
Rachel McAdams was raised in St. Thomas, Ontario. Starting at the age of four, she competed in figure skating. By the age of 13, she was performing in Shakespearean productions in summer theater camp.In high school, McAdams intended to apply to college to study cultural studies, because studying theater would be "a bit of a joke". At the last minute, a drama teacher encouraged her to audition to be a drama major. She eventually majored in theater at York University and graduated with honors and a B.F.A. degree.She began her professional on-screen career with an appearance on the Disney series "The Famous Jett Jackson" (1998) followed by a pilot for MTV. After a few more films, she hit it big after her appearance in the hits Mean Girls (2004) and The Notebook (2004).

Trivia
Attended Original Kids Theatre Company in London, Ontario.
Her father, Lance, is a truck driver and her mother, Sandy, is a nurse. She has a younger sister, Kayleen and younger brother, Daniel.
Born in the same hospital as The Notebook (2004) co-star Ryan Gosling in St. Joseph's Hospital, London, Ontario.
In 1995, she received an acting award for her role in the one-act high school play "I Live in a Little Town" when it was presented at the prestigious Ontario Showcase at the Sears Drama Festival.
Studied theater at York University in Toronto, where she appeared in numerous stage and student film productions. During her senior year, she played a child in "The Piper", a workshop led by a creative team from Toronto's Necessary Angel Theatre Company.
Worked at a McDonalds for 3 summers.
Was told to partly model the character of Regina George after Alec Baldwin's performance in Glengarry Glen Ross (1992).
Received a record five MTV Movie Award nominations in a single year.
Graduated from York University in Toronto with honors & a B.F.A. in theater
Formerly a vegetarian.
She donated many signed head-shots to Rocky Stone to be auctioned off to raise money to buy more toys for less fortunate kids as part of the Toy Mountain Campaign.
Is of Irish descent.

Attended David Rothenberg's on-camera acting class in Toronto with fellow actors Scott Speedman, Kenneth Mitchell, Polly Shannon and David Sutcliffe.
In December 2005, she was #1 on MuchMusic's "Who To Do: 20 Sexiest Girls" list. This list is aired each year, and there is also a separate list for guys.
Named #14 on the Maxim magazine Hot 100 of 2005 list.
Met her boyfriend, Ryan Gosling, on the set of The Notebook (2004).
Ranked #17 on Maxim's hot list 2006.
Considered for the role of Susan Storm/Invisible Girl in Fantastic Four (2005).
Named #51 in FHM magazine's "100 Sexiest Women in the World 2006" supplement. (2006).
While a student at York University, she lived in the same "house" as Ron Sparks in Vanier Residence.
Had to turn down the female lead in The Last Kiss (2006) due to scheduling conflicts. The role was eventually given to Jacinda Barrett.
Was considered for the role of Vesper Lynd in Casino Royale (2006), before the role was given to Eva Green.
She was voted the #101 on FHS's list of Sexiest Women in the World (2005).
Is a vegetarian again.
Lives in the popular Los Angeles neighborhood of Silverlake. Other Silverlake locals include Beck, Bo Barrett, Christina Ricci, Jason Lee and Ryan Gosling.
Sister is Kayleen McAdams.
Split with Ryan Gosling. [Mid-2007]
Chosen by Empire magazine as one of the 100 Sexiest Stars in film history (#68). [2007].
Has a dog named George, which she shared with Ryan Gosling.
Has naturally blond hair.
She doesn't own a car. As part of her daily contribution to help conserve energy, she rides her bike or takes the bus.
Co-founder of www.greenissexy.org, a website which helps raise awareness about the environment.
Was Jon Favreau's first choice to play Pepper Potts in Iron Man (2008), but she turned the role down.
Likes shopping at Vintage clothing stores.
Auditioned for the role of Cady in Mean Girls (2004), but the part went to Lindsay Lohan instead.
Avoided flying airplanes until age 22.
Auditioned for the role of Sophie for the musical Mamma Mia! (2008) but lost out to actress Amanda Seyfried. Seyfried had lost out to McAdams previously for the role of Regina when they both co-starred in Mean Girls (2004).
Reunited with former fiancé Ryan Gosling (August 2008).
Has once again called it quits with former fiancé Ryan Gosling [November 2008].
Personal Quotes
As strange as movie making is, doing love scenes for the first time with someone you've never even said hello to does work in terms of having a fresh quality to a relationship.
It takes a lot of time, commitment and a choice. I've chosen this path, but it's not to say I'm not open to love or whatever comes my way. You never close doors.
The craziest thing I've ever done to get a guy's attention? I admit I stalked someone. I showed up at a restaurant where I knew the guy worked, and we were actually good friends and had lost touch, and I pretended that I didn't know he worked there. And then ran into him and, "Oh my God, you work here? I had no idea." It's the most manipulative thing I've done in my entire life, but it all worked out very well, so I have no regrets.
Yeah. I still live in Canada, so it's not quite the same. And when I'm in L.A., I'm in a car; you don't have the contact with the public. It's not so bad. It's still pretty much the same. I still feel pretty normal-ish.
The most romantic thing, a lovely boy bought me a dress once. He got my measurements, actually they were from The Notebook (2004) and I had them sitting somewhere, and he found them and bought me this dress, tailor-made, this beautiful little black cocktail dress. And I thought that was very, very classy.
I want to try a lot of things that I haven't tried. You know, I did a thriller (Red Eye (2005)) after this, because it was so different and it was a genre I hadn't worked in yet. Then I did a beautiful family ensemble drama. And next? I don't know. I might go off to do a small independent in New York. I'm not sure. The quality of material is important but, basically, I'm open to anything. I like to stay open to anything.
A friend of mine had this great theory about the "Teletubbies" (1997), that it's preparing us for being mindless. And getting us ready for living in an underground world. When they build the underground world because we can no longer breathe the air that it will look like Teletubbie land.
I don't know, I like to go on really different types of dates. Going someplace new or some new part of the city, something that's not your average thing. Something where you just go have an adventure together.
I guess you have to be really open to your acting partners and believe in the story.
I have a certain curiosity for life that drives me and propels me forward.
I once made a (it was supposed to be a 30-minute) bean salad that took me like 6 hours.
I want to work with great directors and try not to put too much pressure on myself and just read things for the story and recognize when I'm drawn to something for the right reasons and try to maintain some sanity.
I've discovered as I've grown up that life is far more complicated than you think it is when you're a kid. It isn't just a straight-forward fairytale.
I've sort of heard that "it" girl thing, but not really. Hearing it from a few people doesn't solidify it in my mind and I wouldn't know how to solidify that title. It's so elusive and what does it mean, I don't know?
I'll put on a punk rock T-shirt, a '50s style skirt, and a pair of flip-flops. I like to mesh a whole bunch of things together.
I'm a sucker for those sweeping love stories. When I read the script (The Notebook (2004)), I couldn't stop crying! I just had such a powerful, instantaneous reaction - it was written so well.
I was not popular in high school, I know every actress says that, but really, I was a big geek.
Paramount sent them nine-foot-high (theater lobby) cutouts of me. They say, "You don't have to come home, we've got you in every room of the house!"
Most of the time, people will just pass me by, or if they do realize, they'll say something like, "My girlfriend said that was you, but I didn't believe her."
I did (training in) tennis, ballet, swing dancing, piano, art class and etiquette. I also did French dialect, but then it was mixing me up with my Southern dialect, so we stuck to Southern!
I wanted to be a secretary, I love paper clips and staplers.
If I hurt someone, if I were to accidentally poke someone's eye out, I would laugh. And then I'd say, 'I'm sorry, I really do feel bad,' but then I'm on the floor rolling.
Yeah. I still live in Canada, so it's not quite the same. And when I'm in L.A., I'm in a car; you don't have the contact with the public. It's not so bad. It's still pretty much the same. I still feel pretty normal-ish.
I've been very lucky so far. I haven't had any bad experiences as far as fan encounters. They don't really recognize me. I think it has to do with my hair. I change it all the time. I like changing my hair color and sometimes it's just not for a role. Usually, I just do it for me.
I guess each relationship is different. That's what I love about relationships. Even when they end, you've learned so very much, so much to take into your next relationship and to take into your life. It's the greatest thing that comes out of an ending - so it depends on the person. - On what she learned about herself when her relationship with Ryan Gosling ended
I would love to have kids someday; I actually can't imagine not having them. My parents have been married for 36 years. They [Lance, a mover, and Sandy, a nurse] have a pretty honest, straightforward relationship that I hope to have myself. - On having her own kids someday
You never really know the person you're sleeping beside. You have a right to your secrets, but that's very difficult when you're supposed to be someone's partner. - On marriage as a minefield of secrets, as suggested in Married Life
What about nudity in films? Nudity for fictional characters is as normal and mundane as eating breakfast. What bothers me is our culture's obsession with nudity. It shouldn't be a big deal, but it is. I think this overemphasis with nudity makes actors nervous. There's the worry about seeing one's body dissected, misrepresented, played and replayed on YouTube. - On nudity in films

~*~Quotes from the movie~*~

From The Notebook (2004)Young Noah: Get in the water. Young Allie: No! I'm scared. Young Noah: [yelling] Get in the water, woman! Get in the water! Young Allie: [looks at him, puzzled] Young Noah: [calmly] No I'm sorry baby, please just get in. Young Allie: [hesitates] Young Noah: [once his friends start yelling again] GET IN THE WATER!

The Notebook (2004)Young Noah: Will you go out with me? Young Allie: What? No. Young Noah: No...? Young Allie: No. Young Noah: Why not? Young Allie: I dunno, because I don't want to. Young Noah: OK, then you leave me no other choice. Young Allie: AHHHH Young Noah: I'm gonna ask you one more time, will you or will you not go out with me? I think my hand's slipping. Young Allie: OK, OK. Fine I'll go out with you Young Noah: No, don't do me any favors. Young Allie: No, no I want to. Young Noah: Say it. Young Allie: I wanna go out with you. Young Noah: Say it again. Young Allie: I WANNA GO OUT WITH YOU! Young Noah: All right, all right we'll go out.

Young Allie: [lying in the middle of the street] What happens if a car comes? Young Noah: We die.

Young Noah: It's not about following your heart and it's not about keeping your promises. It's about security. Young Allie: What's that supposed to mean? Young Noah: [yelling] Money. He's got a lot of money! Young Allie: You smug bastard. I hate you for saying that. Young Noah: You're bored Allie. You're bored and you know it. You wouldn't be here if there wasn't something missing. Young Allie: You arrogant son of a bitch. Young Noah: Would you just stay with me? Young Allie: Stay with you? What for? Look at us, we're already fightin' Young Noah: Well that's what we do, we fight... You tell me when I am being an arrogant son of a bitch and I tell you when you are a pain in the ass. Which you are, 99% of the time. I'm not afraid to hurt your feelings. You have like a 2 second rebound rate, then you're back doing the next pain-in-the-ass thing. Young Allie: So what? Young Noah: So it's not gonna be easy. It's gonna be really hard. We're gonna have to work at this every day, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, for ever, you and me, every day. Will you do something for me, please? Just picture your life for me? 30 years from now, 40 years from now? What's it look like? If it's with him, go. Go! I lost you once, I think I can do it again. If I thought that's what you really wanted. But don't you take the easy way out. Young Allie: What easy way? There is no easy way, no matter what I do, somebody gets hurt. Young Noah: Would you stop thinking about what everyone wants? Stop thinking about what I want, what he wants, what your parents want. What do YOU want? What do you WANT? Young Allie: It's not that simple. Young Noah: What... do... you... want? Whaddaya want? Young Allie: I have to go now.

Young Noah: I'm not usually like this, I'm sorry. Young Allie: Oh yes you are. Young Noah: I could be fun, if you want. I could be pensive, uhh... smart, supersticious, brave? And I, uhh, I can be light on my feet. I could be whatever you want. You just tell me what you want, and I'm gonna be that for you. Young Allie: ...You're dumb. Young Noah: I could be that. Young Noah: Come on, one date, what's it gonna hurt? Young Allie: Mmm, I don't think so. Young Noah: Well what can I do to change your mind?

Young Noah: What am I gonna do in New York? Young Allie: ...Be with me.

Young Noah: [raising fists in air] Dad! God... I stammered! Frank: Stammered, stuttered... what's the difference. You couldn't understand a damn thing he said. [Allie laughing] Frank: Anyway, I got him to read some poetry aloud and pretty soon his stuttering went away. Young Allie: Well, that's a good idea that poetry.

Young Allie: You gotta be kiddin me. All this time, that's what I've been missin'? Let's do it again.

This is my all-time fave Love movie;)

Another one of my all time fave movies is ~*~Dirty Dancing~*~

~*~Going Down Memory Lane with fun Quotes from the Movie~*~

Penny: Oh, come on, ladies. God wouldn't have given you maracas if He didn't want you to shake 'em.

Baby: Me? I'm scared of everything. I'm scared of what I saw, I'm scared of what I did, of who I am, and most of all I'm scared of walking out of this room and never feeling the rest of my whole life the way I feel when I'm with you.

Johnny: Nobody puts Baby in a corner.

Johnny: Now, you'll hurt me if you don't trust me, all right?

Baby: I carried a watermelon. [Johnny walks away] Baby: [to herself] Carried a watermelon?

Baby: Have you had many women? Johnny: What? Baby: Have you *had* many women? Johnny: Baby, come on. Baby: Tell me. I wanna know. Johnny: No, no. Look, you've gotta understand what it's like, Baby. You come from the streets and suddenly you're up here, and these women, they are throwing themselves at ya, and they smell so good, and they really take care of themselves. I mean, I never knew women could be like that, you know? And they're so rich, they're so goddam rich, you think they must know about everything. And they're slipping their room keys in my hands, two and three times day, different women. So, here I think I'm scoring big, right? And for a while, you think, hey, they wouldn't be doing this if they didn't care about me, right? Baby: That-that's alright, I understand. You were just using them, that's all. Johnny: No, no that's not it. That's the thing, Baby, see it wasn't like that. They were using me.

Johnny: I'm gonna do my kind of dancin' with a great partner, who's not only a terrific dancer; somebody who's taught me that there are people willing to stand up for other people no matter what it costs them; somebody who's taught me about the kind of person I wanna be.

Johnny: It's not on the one, it's not the mambo. It's a feeling; a heartbeat

Johnny: I'll never be sorry. Baby: Neither will I.

Jake Houseman: Don't you tell me what to see! I see someone in front of me who got his partner in trouble and sent her off to some butcher, while he moved on to an innocent young girl like my daughter! [silence] Johnny: [angry] Yeah, I guess that's what you *would* see.

~*~Another Movie that I love is The Break UP~*~

*****Memorable Quotes*****

Gary: What kind of bullshit move was that? Brooke: I'm sorry, what? What happened? Gary: Oh don't be coy with me. You sent that animal over here to attack me when I was hung over and weak. Brooke: Oh no. Look, all I know is The Tone Rangers they needed some place to rehearse so I very clearly told Richard stay in my room, which you explained to me was my space to do with what I want. Gary: Is that how you want to play it? Cause I'll play it like that. I'll play it like Lionel Richie, all night long, lady. Oh yeah. I'll call some guys from my neck of the woods. And we're not talking about, Brooke, about a couple of queens who know a few grapples. We're talking about Polacks that don't have a goddamn future. That's right. We can make shit real uncomfortable around here, and that's what we're going to do. Brooke: Please, come on. You know what, you're just embarrassed because Richard kicked your ass. Gary: Richard did not kick my ass. What Richard did was attack me when I was half asleep. Brooke: Really, is that how you see it? Gary: There's a real big gap between getting your ass kicked and having a dancing, singing sprite fool you with trickery and then strike your throat before you even know you're in a fight. But I wouldn't expect someone like you to understand that, because all you do is make moves from up in your ivory tower.

Gary: Is that how you want to play it Brooke? Becasue I can play it like that. I can play it like Lionel Richie, "All night long."

Gary: Listen, Lassie, and listen good. I'm not saying he's not gonna get married. I'm not saying he's not gonna have kids. If it does happen, his wife is gonna come home, and find him with his Tiajuana lover clubbing each other with Yanni's greatest hits.

Gary: I'm the one who should be sorry, Brooke. I shouldn't sit here and pick on your art, because you've got the 'nuts' down, Picasso! All you have to do is cut off your frigging ear. Brooke: That's Van Gogh, you idiot. Your insults are much more effective when they're accurate.

Brooke: What are these? Brooke: [holds up a bag with 3 lemons] Gary: You asked for lemons. What my baby wants my baby gets. Brooke: There are 3 lemons. I asked for 12. Baby wanted 12.

*~*~*~Last one is A Walk To Remember~*~*~*

Dean: If there is a greater power, why is it he can't get you a new sweater? Jamie: Because, he's too busy looking for your brain.

Jamie: You know what I figured out today? Landon: What? Jamie: Maybe God has a bigger plan for me than I had for myself. Like this journey never ends. Like you were sent to me because I'm sick. To help me through all this. You're my angel.

Landon: I might kiss you. Jamie: I might be bad at it. Landon: That's not possible.

Jamie: You’re acting like a crazy person, what's going on? Landon: Right now, you're straddling the state line. Jamie: OK... Landon: You're in two places at once.

Jamie: Please don't pretend like you know me, ok? Landon: But I do, I do. We've had all the same classes in the same school since kindergarten. Why you're Jamie Sullivan. You sit at lunch table 7. Which isn't exactly the reject table, but is definitely in self exile territory. You have exactly one sweater. You like to look at your feet when you walk. Oh, oh, and yeah, for fun, you like to tutor on weekends and hang out with the cool kids from "Stars and Planets." Now how does that sound? Jamie: Thoroughly predictable, nothing I haven't heard before. Landon: You don't care what people think about you? Jamie: No.

Landon: What are you doing here? Jamie: I could ask you the same question. Landon: Do you normally walk alone in cemeteries at night? Jamie: Maybe

Jamie: How can you see places like this... and have moments like this and not believe? Landon: You're lucky to be so sure. Jamie: It's like the wind. I can't... see it, but I feel it.

Landon: Are you scared? Jamie: To death... [Landon looks upset] Jamie: Lighten up. Landon: It's not funny. Jamie: I'm scared of not being with you. Landon: Oh baby, that will never happen... I'll be here.

Jamie: Without suffering there would be no compassion. Landon: Yeah, well tell that to those who suffer.

Landon: Listen, Jamie, I was hoping we could run lines together? Jamie: Okay, but just not so anybody knows, right? Landon: Well I just figured we could surprise everyone with how good I get. Jamie: Like we could be secret friends. Landon: Exactly, exactly it's like you're reading my mind. Jamie: Great umm... maybe you could read mine. [she gives him a cold glare and turns away] Landon: Jamie, Jamie I can't just be your friend. Jamie: Landon, look, I thought I saw something in you, something good, but I was very wrong.

Landon: Jamie, I'm trying here, OK? Maybe... maybe I miss spending time with you. Maybe you inspire me. Jamie: Sounds like bull. Landon: Which part? Jamie: All of it. Landon: Well it's not! Jamie: Prove it.

Jamie: You don't know the first thing about being someone's friend. Landon: I don't want to just be your friend. Jamie: You don't know what you want. Landon: Neither do you. Maybe you're just too scared that someone might actually want to be with you. Jamie: And why would that scare me? Landon: Because then you wouldn't be able to hide behind your books, or your frickin' telescope, or your faith. No, no, you know the real reason why you're scared? It's cause you wanna be with me too.

Landon: Hey. How are you feeling? Jamie: I'm ok, how are you? Landon: Pretty good. Jamie: I have something for you. Landon: You do? Jamie: Uh hmm... Don't worry it's not a bible. It was my mother's. It's got quotes from all her favorite books, and quotes by famous people. Her thoughts. Come on. Landon: Okay, let's check it out. Okay...”What is a friend? It's a single soul dwelling in two bodies." -Aristotle. Jamie: Uh uh, right here. Landon: Okay. "Find out who you are, and do it on purpose." That's Dolly Parton. Jamie: I always thought she was smart. Landon: "Love is always patient and kind. It is never jealous. Love is never boastful or conceited. It is never rude or selfish. It does not take offense and is not resentful."

Landon: Jamie... I love you. [long pause] Landon: Now would be the time to say something. Jamie: I told you not to fall in love with me.

Landon: Do you love me? [she nods] Landon: Will you do something for me, then? Jamie: [smiles] Anything. Landon: Will you marry me? [Jamie smiles and kisses him]

Eric: [reading lines passionately for Landon] Nothing's coincidence, baby. You know you're the only one who can make me sing. [jokingly pretending to hump Mrs. Garber] Eric: Oh yeah Miss Garber, oh, you gonna put Eric in all your plays! [as Miss Garber] Eric: Oh Eric, I'm gonna put you in all my plays!

Jamie: I'm sick. Landon: I'll take you home. You'll be be... Jamie: No. Landon! I'm sick. I have Leukemia. Landon: No. You're 18. You - you're perfect. Jamie: No. I found out two years ago and I've stopped responding to treatments. Landon: So why didn't you tell me? Jamie: The doctor said I should go on and live life normally as best I could. I - I didn't want anybody to be weird around me. Landon: Including me? Jamie: Especially you! [Jamie looks down] Jamie: [Landon gets upset] Jamie: Ya know, I was getting along with everything fine. I accepted it, and then you happened! I do not need a reason to be angry with God. [Jamie runs away

Eric: It's all good cause were gonna get club Landon and Club Eric jumping up in here. Oh, what do we got here ? [Landon turns the CD player on] Eric: Whoa, okay, okay, so your not really feeling my hip-hop, but what the hell is this? Landon: Jamie lent it to me. Eric: Now she's got you listening to her people music? Landon: Okay... her people? Eric: Yeah. Her... uh, bible-hugging, crucifix-wearing, honk-if-you-love-Jesus-people. Landon: She's not like that.

Jamie: [after she and Landon keep switching the radio station] Forty-two. Landon: "Forty-two", what do you-what do you mean "forty-two"? Jamie: Forty-two is "Befriend somebody I don't like". It's a to-do list I have. Landon: What, like getting a new personality? Jamie: Spend a year in the Peace Corps, make a medical discovery... Landon: That's ambitious. Jamie: ...Be in two places at once, get a tattoo. Landon: What's number one? Jamie: I'd tell you, but then I'd have to kill you.

Oh Yeah!! ONE MORE!! LOL! Sweet Home Alabama..but of course!

"Look at you, you have a baby... In a bar."

"You dumb stubborn redneck hick."

"You can't ride two horses with one ass, sugarbean."

"What do you want to be married to me for, anyhow? Young Jake: So I can kiss you anytime I want. [they kiss, and lightening strikes] "

"Jake: [not recognizing Melanie in her sunglasses] Can I help you? Melanie Carmichael: Well, for starters, you can get your stubborn ass down here and give me a divorce. Jake: You're shittin' me, right? Melanie Carmichael: I never fully understood that expression, but no, I am not "shitting" you"

"The only reason I ain't signing is cause you've turned into some hoity-toity Yankee bitch, and I'd like nothing better right now than to piss you off. "

"Mayor Kate Hennings: Why don't you go back to your double-wide and fry something. Melanie Carmichael: ["decks" Kate] Nobody talks to my Momma like that! Earl Smooter: Praise the Lord, the South has risen again! "

"You married your *cousin*? "

" Honey, just cuz I talk slow doesn't mean I'm stupid"

"Woo-oo. You look like sex on a stick in that Frederick Montana getup"

"Jake: What the hell is this? Chick food? Melanie Carmichael: Light beer. Less calories"

Guys just get a stick, lets play some pool, alright? And if ya can't find a cue just pull the one shoved up her ass. "

"Wade: The law is the law and she has done nothing wrong. Jake: I supposed shoplifting steaks from Winn Dixie's okay? Melanie Carmichael: Oh, Oh! I took 'em back and you know it! Jake: What about that incident of vandalism in the stockyard... totally her! Melanie Carmichael: Like I could tip a cow... by myself! Jake: Wade, isn't there some outstanding for whoever drove your mama's tractor into the fishing pond? Melanie Carmichael: [horrified realizing what he meant] OH! "

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~*~My Best Friend's Wedding~*~

***Quotes***

Kimmy's Mother: I insist you stay on for lunch. Julianne Potter: No, no, no, no, no... Absolutely -... George Downes: Love to! Love the bag, love the shoes, love everything. Love to!

Kimmy Wallace: You kissed him! Ladies in the bathroom: [gasps] Kimmy Wallace: At my parents' house. Ladies in the bathroom: [gasps] Kimmy Wallace: On my wedding day. Ladies in the bathroom: Bitch! Ladies in the bathroom: Tramp! Kimmy Wallace: I love this man, and there is no way I am going to give him up for some big-haired food critic.

George Downes: When you kissed Michael did he kiss you back? Julianne Potter: What do you mean? We were lip to lip.

Julianne Potter: It is the duty of the best man to dance with the maid of honor. Michael O'Neill: Dance? You can't dance. When did you learn how to dance? Julianne Potter: I've got moves you've never seen.

Julianne Potter: I had the strangest dream. I dreamt that some psychopath was trying to break the two of you up. Luckily, I woke up and I see that the world is just as it should be. For my best friend has won the best woman. I didn't buy you a gift. But this is on loan until you two find your song...

Julianne Potter: I'm pond scum. Well, lower actually. I'm like the fungus that feeds on pond scum. Michael O'Neill: Lower. The pus that infects the mucus that cruds up the fungus that feeds on the pond scum. On the other hand, thank you for loving me that much, that way. It's pretty flattering. Julianne Potter: Except it makes me fungus.

George Downes: The misery, the exquisite tragedy. The Susan Hayward of it all. I can just picture you there, sitting alone at your table in your lavender gown. Julianne Potter: Did I tell you my gown was lavender? George Downes: Hair swept up. Haven't touched your cake. Probably drumming your fingernails on the white linen tablecloth, the way you do when you're really feeling down. Perhaps looking at those nails thinking: 'God, I should have stopped in all my evil plotting to have that manicure, but it's too late now. Julianne Potter: George, I didn't tell you my dress was lavender. George Downes: Suddenly, a familiar song. And, you're off your chair in one, exquisite movement... wondering, searching, sniffing the wind like a dapple deer. Has God heard your little prayer? Will Cinderella dance again? And then, suddenly, the crowds part and there he is: sleek, stylish... radiant with charisma. Bizarrely, he's on the telephone. But then, so are you. And then he comes towards you... the moves of a jungle cat. Although you quite correctly sense that he is... gay... like most devastatingly handsome single men of his age are, you think... what the hell. Life goes on. Maybe there won't be marriage... maybe there won't be sex... but, by God, there'll be dancing.

Julianne Potter: He just came in for few hours to uh, to uh, FUCK ME. George Downes: Huh! Takes a few hours.

Julianne Potter: Crème brûlée can never be Jell-O. YOU could never be Jell-O. Kimmy Wallace: I HAVE to be Jell-O! Julianne Potter: You're never gonna be Jell-O!

Kimmy Wallace: He sucks soup through his front teeth. Julianne Potter: That's a trademark move - don't touch that one

George Downes: Michael's chasing Kimmy? Julianne Potter: Yes! George Downes: You're chasing Michael? Julianne Potter: YES! George Downes: Who's chasing you... nobody, get it? There's your answer. It's Kimmy.